I’m hoping everyone goes back to treating me normally. I’m embarrassed I caused a fuss. I don’t want people to ask me how I am or if I’m “better now”. Life was going … well it certainly wasn’t okay, but it was going.
At the same time, I can’t focus. I need to talk about this.
I woke up after my seizure in so much pain I wasn’t capable of thought, then spent the next agonising portion of my life barely concious covered in my own blood, shit and vomit on the bathroom floor yelling for help in a country I’ve never been to before with a language I don’t understand.
People don’t seem to understand that that changes things.
The next 24 hours in the hospital gave me a lot of time to think about how I came to that position and how I could ever avoid it again. Everything I do now seems pointless. Recently I had been questioning what my aim is in life and realised that all I wanted to be was happy. Shocker. So I started to think about what makes me happy and unhappy.
I wasn’t happy in my PhD and had constantly questioned why I was doing it (pro-tip: don’t do a PhD because you love a topic, you’ll spend >95% never actually looking at and doing admin and reports instead). I felt like I was wasting my time.
I wasn’t happy in my body and kept desperately trying to eat healthier, sleep better, exercise more etc. despite all the time constraints and restrictions life can throw. I felt like I was slowly killing myself.
I wasn’t happy in my relationship because I felt that all this narcissistic, self-pitying, “what am I doing with my life”-ing was dominating any conversation, killing any time we spent together and overriding any problems my partner may have had. I felt like a bitch.
Now I’m “back to normal” – these are things that need changing.
The problem is I feel trapped.
I’m stuck in this country for nearly 2 months. I’m stuck in this PhD for probably another 4-6 months until I call it quits (because I’m a scientist at heart and I can’t leave my samples). I want to love my PhD, I want to want to stick at it.
But the only thoughts I am having right now are those the doctors planted in my brain and my own twisted fears to never go to sleep in case it happens again.
“You were very lucky”
“Do you think anything’s broken?”
“Have you severed your tongue? I need to see your tongue”
“Do you remember choking or passing out?”
“Can you touch your nose? Say this back to me…”
I escaped broken bones, permanent disfiguration, brain damage and choking to death on my own blood and vomit.
I was very lucky.
Help.